Keeping secrets within a relationship can have serious consequences, often resulting in a major loss of trust and causing lasting harm. With patience and open communication, it is possible to find resolution and even strengthen the bond between you and your partner.

In a surprising turn of events, Suzan made a startling discovery about her husband. Uncertain about the next steps, she contacted us and wrote a letter asking for guidance and assistance.

This is what she wrote:

“Hello there,
Last year, I got married to Steve. We had only known each other for six months before tying the knot. That wasn’t enough time, to be honest, to fully understand every aspect of each other’s characters. Our relationship appeared to effortlessly fall into place. I thought he was a straightforward and uncomplicated person, just like me. In addition, we were both in a stable financial situation and had reached a level of emotional maturity that made us confident in our decision to get married without hesitation.

Then, the other night, as I lay in bed scrolling through my phone, I heard my husband mentioning the name ‘Laura’ in his sleep.

It was quite unsettling to hear my husband mistakenly call me by someone else’s name. But the following day, I decided to keep quiet about the incident, worried that he might try to cover up the truth with lies if my suspicions turned out to be true. Curious to put my mind at ease and eliminate any doubts, I made the choice to investigate further.

During his morning shower, I took advantage of the situation and managed to gain access to his phone. To my dismay, I discovered an extensive chat history with someone named “Laura.”

But the most surprising turn of events occurred when I laid eyes on Laura’s photo – it was that of a little girl.

After several weeks of diligent investigation, I was finally able to make contact with the girl’s mother through her social media account. After carefully formulating a few questions, I was met with a sincere and thoughtful response. It was at that moment that I discovered the truth: the young girl in the photo happened to be my husband’s daughter. Steve’s ex-girlfriend, Laura’s mother, had decided to take her away when she discovered she was pregnant. At the time, Steve was still a med school student and wasn’t prepared to take on the role of a father.

I couldn’t help but wonder why he hadn’t mentioned her existence to me yet, which left me with a multitude of unanswered questions. Now, with a whirlwind of emotions, I find myself contemplating whether I should address the situation with him right away. This would involve admitting to snooping on his phone and carrying out my own investigation, or should I wait for him to come clean whenever he’s ready. I would greatly appreciate your opinions and guidance on this matter.
Best regards,
Suzan”

Dear readers, what would you advise Suzan? What would you do if you were in her shoes?