A 35-year-old woman reached out to us, expressing a deep concern for her children’s well-being due to actions by another woman. In her heartfelt letter, she shares a distressing situation that feels like a plea for help. This sensitive issue involves not just her, but her children and her ex-husband’s new wife. The worried mother is looking for advice from our readers, hoping to gain clarity on whether her feelings are justified or if she’s reacting too strongly to a seemingly harmless family situation.

Megan, 35, shared the complex and emotional story of her relationship with her ex-husband, John. Their divorce was amicable, but now, her anxiety over her children’s safety is growing. While she’s striving to avoid conflict, the situation has reached a point where she can no longer stay silent. She hopes that by sharing her story, readers can provide her with perspective on whether her concerns are valid or if she’s overreacting.

In her letter, Megan begins by explaining, “John and I were married for 13 years before our divorce two years ago. We have two kids, now 13 and 8 years old. Our split was peaceful, with no drama, regrets, or blame. Both of us worked hard to help our kids adjust to the divorce, making sure they knew how much we still love and respect each other. John and I remain great friends, and things have gone smoothly between us so far.”

John has since remarried, and Megan initially welcomed the news. She continues, “Last year, John married again. His new wife, Lily, is a sweet young woman who clearly loves him. From the beginning, I knew about their relationship and was genuinely happy for John. Neither of us holds onto any romantic feelings for each other; we’ve both moved on and built new lives.”

Megan’s primary focus has always been on how her children would adjust to their parents’ new partners. She notes, “Since John started a new family before I did, I paid close attention to how Lily interacted with our kids. But initially, there was nothing to worry about. Lily seemed eager to bond with the kids, and I allowed them to visit and spend time with their dad’s new family. They even went on vacations together, and I thought everything was going well—until I stumbled upon something that completely shocked me.”

Megan’s discovery left her upset and anxious. She writes, “I recently checked my oldest son’s Facebook profile and came across Lily’s page. She had been frequently posting pictures of my children, which might have been acceptable, but she included their full names, photos of their jerseys with our location, and even tagged their whereabouts. And all of this was on her public Facebook page.”

She adds, “I was livid when I saw her behavior online. Since then, I’ve repeatedly asked her to stop, but Lily either ignores me or promises to take the posts down, only to keep posting. The final straw was seeing a picture of my 8-year-old daughter in a swimsuit on her public page.”

Feeling desperate, Megan shared, “I lost my patience and confronted her. Lily brushed me off, calling me unreasonable and overreacting. This is the only request I’ve ever made of her—to not share pictures of my kids online. My biggest issue is that her Facebook profile isn’t private, and she doesn’t filter her friends list (which has over 4,000 people). Even though we’re not friends on Facebook (she blocked me after I asked her to remove the posts), she unblocked me, so I can still see everything she posts—and so can everyone else.”

Megan’s frustration reached a breaking point. “I recently called Lily and asked her to stay away from my children altogether. John was furious when he found out I had forbidden his wife from interacting with our kids, but I feel like I have to protect them from her careless actions. I might be overreacting, but I don’t feel like I crossed a line. John defends her, but if her page were private and she was more cautious, I wouldn’t be as concerned. But that’s not the case, and she doesn’t seem to care who sees what she’s posting.”

Megan is clearly struggling with this difficult situation, and her concerns for her children’s privacy and safety are understandable. It would be advisable for her to calmly discuss the matter with her ex-husband and Lily, emphasizing the need for boundaries and ensuring that the kids’ safety is prioritized. Finding a compromise through respectful dialogue could be the key to resolving this issue.

What would you do if you were in her position? Have you experienced a similar situation with an ex’s new partner? Share your thoughts in the comments.