My name is Sarah, I’m 25 years old, and I’ve found myself in a pretty complicated situation, even though I thought I was building my happiness.

I started a relationship with my boss, Michael, who is 44. He’s a very charming and charismatic man, hard to resist. Michael quickly picked up on my feelings for him, and we began dating. We’ve been together for a year and a half now.

I knew he had a wife and two kids: a 14-year-old daughter and a 9-year-old son. Of course, I understood it was wrong, but I couldn’t let go of my feelings for him. To spend time with me, Michael often lied to his wife, sometimes telling her he was going to a business dinner with a client. But last time, something went wrong—she started to suspect him. When Michael said he had another business meeting, she decided to follow him.

We were having dinner at a restaurant, and later, we went to a hotel room. After a while, there was a knock at the door. Michael went to open it, thinking it was the champagne and fruit we had ordered. But instead of the waiter, it was his wife standing there.

I was almost relieved in that moment, thinking that now we could be together openly, without the lies. I started imagining us getting married and starting a new life. But things didn’t go as I had hoped.

Michael did end up divorcing his wife and moved in with me. However, his kids ended up living with us. His ex-wife couldn’t support the kids financially because she wasn’t working and didn’t have the means. She didn’t mind them living with their dad.

I wasn’t ready for this. I thought Michael and I would start a happy new life together, maybe even have our own kids. But instead, my home has turned into chaos: the kids leave things everywhere, they’re loud, and I can’t get a moment’s peace. On top of that, their mom comes over all the time to visit them.

Michael isn’t doing anything to resolve this, and I feel like I’m reaching my breaking point. I don’t know how much more I can take. I keep thinking it would be better if I just kicked everyone out because I can’t handle this anymore.

What should I do in this situation?