“So what if he has a wife? She doesn’t take care of herself at all, never goes to the salon, and can’t cook for the life of her.”

I had a best friend, Vicky. Well, had isn’t the right word—she’s alive and well, thank God. We’ve been friends since high school.

A couple of years ago, my friend started an affair with a married man.

They saw each other secretly for a few years, and eventually, he left his wife for her. Every time we talked about it, Vicky would blame his wife, the one he cheated on and eventually left. She kept saying that the wife was dumb, didn’t care about him, didn’t take care of herself, and never tried to understand him. I didn’t judge her—it was my friend, after all.

The first year, they were happy. But then, her life became a real nightmare. Cheating, manipulation, arguments, constant breakups, and just as many attempts to start fresh. After three years of this, my confident, radiant friend turned into a worn-out, miserable woman.

I’m not trying to gossip here—I just want to say this to anyone who might find themselves in a similar situation. If a man behaves like a jerk, it’s not because the other woman was somehow “wrong,” but because the man himself is a scumbag. And if you choose to get involved with someone like that, be ready for the same treatment—because there’s no such thing as being “special” to him.

Trust me, you won’t be the exception either!

Wait for the right one and stay away from someone else’s man—not for another woman’s sake, not out of solidarity or some sense of honor, but for your own sake!