A 28-year-old woman sought advice on Reddit about her complicated family situation. She’s the mother of an 11-month-old baby, and one day, she and her 35-year-old husband, James, hired a nanny to care for their daughter, Ella. The nanny, referred to as Lily, was recommended by one of James’s coworkers. Lily, 20, had recently dropped out of college, and the couple thought she would be a good fit for the job.

Things seemed fine at first, though the woman noticed that Lily was a bit too close to both Ella and James. Initially, she laughed off Lily’s flirtatious behavior toward James, as she was confident in her relationship. But everything changed when she discovered suggestive photos of Lily on James’s phone. The pictures, which showed Lily posing in lingerie, had been sent multiple times. Although James hadn’t responded to the messages, the woman wasn’t sure if texts had been deleted. When she confronted him, he became defensive and accused her of using “psychologist tricks” on him, which led to a heated argument.

Angry and feeling disrespected, the woman packed James’s bags and threw him out. She thought about taking Ella back to Canada, where she was originally from, to visit her family. Although James’s friends and family insisted the photos were harmless, the woman refused to tolerate the situation. She traveled to Canada immediately after the incident, and her family encouraged her to stay there permanently with their support.

After returning to the US briefly to settle things, the woman and James finalized an agreement that gave her primary custody of Ella. Despite James’s hope that she would reconsider and let him back into her life, the woman had made up her mind and moved on without him.